LifeRelationshipstipsGossip! Curb the nasty habit

October 14, 2019by makewellg0

Gossip – curb the nasty habit!

Tittle tattle. Telling tales and stories.

Sometimes about those you “love”.

Is it possible to be gossip free?

Few of us are exempt from gossiping. I’ve yet to meet anyone who doesn’t gossip at times.

The word gossip suggests it light, not harmful.

The truth. It can break trust and be destructive to relationships. 

I can do it as a distraction, when I am being stubborn, refusing to make a move or when I need to make difficult decisions. I look at others and want to change them.

What I realise!  Those who rarely gossip are working on something bigger than themselves or too engaged in life to notice what other people are doing.

The best way to curb this nasty habit………

Find something, one thing.

To build, to create, to nurture, to love – art, dance, family, a project, a sport. (Read, creativity is not reserved for special people)

Anything to shift your focus on what others are doing.  Then you can share good news and have better things to talk about.

Some tips:

  • Be aware of your own inner chat – are you wasting time and energy, worrying what others are doing.
  • Notice the relationships where the conversation runs dry when there is no-one to discuss – steer your conversation into a higher vibe.
  • Move out of the small town mentality (if you live in a place like this) – travel, go to new places, try new things, meet new people.
  • Spend time with people who have more to offer and want to build, not destroy others.
  • Don’t attempt to influence other people’s judgement – let them decide for themselves.

And if conversations that inspire, lift you, build, help your grow and move closer to who you are and where you are going are not readily available ……….

there is always silence.


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