Struggle to make decisions or worry about making the wrong decision? Learn to make decisions that help you move forward.
Years ago, I listened to an Alan Watts (Philosopher) video about how much we fret over decisions. Spending weeks, months and sometimes years worrying, yet, when the moment arrives, the decision is made in seconds.
This has been my experience. If I force a decision before it’s time, it often ends up messy. Similarly, delaying a necessary decision has been costly.
A lady told me weeks ago she is actively choosing in her life. This is her belief, yet her decisions are detrimental to her and her family. This is not choice. This is acting in a habitual way.
This is resistance at play. Martyrdom. Jealousy. Aggression. The need to be right. Most of all, a fear of change.
Tips to help you make decisions that help you step forward.
Don’t lower your expectations.
Hard, I know. Lack of patience sends us down all the roads.
Sitting with boredom or confusion is easier said than done.
It is easy to run, take the edge off and go after the stuff that feels good in the moment.
My experience is, it never lasts. The quick fixes and plasters are usually when acting prematurely, being selfish or not having the courage to wait for what you deserve.
That said, at some point, the time will come to make the decision.
And make it you must.
When the time comes to go, to choose, to walk, to move, to speak, to hold yourself, do it.
I had once had a friend who would bore people agonising over the smallest decisions.
He never made a decision and sadly never moved forward.
As Mark Twain said “Good decisions come from experience. Experience come from making bad decisions”.
Had he made a wrong decision, he would have learned and moved forward.
Decide, right or wrong.
I have plenty of experience in making bad decisions. I have also learned from the better decisions I’ve made.
What has been the shift?
Making less decisions that are self-defeating or selfish. This takes practice and often repetition. Also learning from others’ bad decisions helps too.
The more empowered you are, the harder it is to use that power wisely.
Make decisions for the higher good.
For you and others.
What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below.